Have you ever looked at someone and thought....What is wrong with you? What is wrong with the way you act, think, live? I have silently (or maybe not always so silently) asked this question thousands of times to my family, friends, collegues, students or strangers. This phenominal book helped me reframe this toxic question by instead asking: What happened to you? I now have a better framework to understand and accept when people, or myself, don't behave the way I think they should. The book also dives into trauma and gives a succinct, clear and concise explantion of what it is, how it can show up in different people, and how this connects to how we are in the world.